“If you are depressed, you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
– Lao Tzu –
Often, I am asked by my clients what they can do to improve their wellbeing and help heal their depression and anxiety.
Here are my thoughts on depression and anxiety – it is very real, but I also do say that if you are not trying to do the work to elevate your health and practice some self-care strategies and are hoping that it will all go away, then you should read on.
I too have suffered depression and anxiety for many years, but I was also guilty of not practising self-love rituals that would help me fight fit for my mental health’s sake.
I do believe that we should allow our bodies to experience grief, sadness, depression and anxiety or whatever else we are feeling that is perceived to be a negative feeling or experience.
Everything we do in our life is fuelled by emotional charge. Think about it, we change our jobs to be ‘happy’, we change partners to be ‘happy’, we go on holidays, well to be ‘happy’.
So, we need to experience all emotions because this drives our moral compass, our values and belief system, which in turn helps us learn valuable lessons in our life.
‘We need to feel uncomfortable to push ourselves to feel the magic, but what we don’t want to do is sit too long in uncomfortable, we want to recognise, be grateful for the lesson, heal and move on – yes move on!’
To live a life of presence, optimal health and wellbeing, I had to change my lifestyle dramatically over the last few years and create a more conscious living around my health.
I focused on 5 components of my life;
- Meditation/Deep Breathing
Back in 2012, my dad died a few days before my 30th birthday – I was heartbroken!
To help with the grief, depression and anxiety of my dad’s death, I decided to immerse myself in exercise. I started training boot camp 3 days a week and I noticed that for an hour of training all my grief, depression, anxiety and everything else would just shift. I still train at boot camp and I can not imagine my life without exercise now!
During this time, I also decided that my diet needed some attention and nurturing, I started thinking of food as a weapon and how it needed to help me fight through low moods and also give me energy to train.
I changed the way I viewed food, I now think that there is no such thing as junk food, there’s junk and then there is food. I do relax and enjoy dinners with friends, I drink wine here and there but ultimately food is your weapon against illness and diseases.
Hydration and sleep is a big must but mediation and deep breathing is the key to the mind and body connection.
I practice several types of meditations; walking, gardening, stillness, praying and deep breathing. Some people feel that traditional form of meditation is hard work and that they can’t sit still for 10 mins a day, but if you look at meditation from a different perspective of just slowing down, taking that moment for you and no one else, you can start to feel a inner peace of knowing that you are working on being an even better version of yourself.
I remind you to slow down, take those big belly breaths, eat and sleep well and watch how your moods and overall health will elevate to optimal health..
Keep positive, stay healthy!